This movie portrays the classic dilemma of choosing between society and family. It shows a daughter corrupted by peer pressure become a burden to her family. Most people fall for peer pressure, most people choose to please society over their family. If you ask me, there's no functioning society without functioning families. Thank you for taking the time to view this article and we hope you enjoy the life lessons presented below.
- Bonds of Control
At first glance, Molly portrays the image of a scum, but how does a young woman from responsible parents end up as a scum. How do young adults end up as drug addicts, drop-outs, and social miscreants. Bonds of control is a term we coined to represent the entrapment of young vulnerable adults to enslaving practices disguised as social glitz and glamour. The bonds of control can be manifested as addiction to hard drugs, addiction to porn, alcoholism, addiction to video games, social media and even addiction to junk food. Beware the distraction disguised as glamour. In reality, patience is a major key when dealing with such temptations. It is helpful to find fun and interesting activities that can be substituted for addicting practices. Tourism, sightseeing, fun parks and other social gatherings where addicting practices would not be accepted can help. Always try to weigh the pros and cons and understand that you can have fun while working on your potential in healthy ways.
- Limits of Parenthood
Deb (Glenn Close) and Chris (Stephen Root) had had enough of their daughter's nuisances and addiction problems, including stealing household items for sale in order to purchase more drugs. Consequently, they denied Molly entry into the house, which resulted in her spending the night on the porch. Mother's love to the rescue and Molly is given a cup of coffee in the morning, yet she still calls her mother a bitch. A bitch!!! The freedom of the west is applaudable but c'mon Molly, that's one horse too high. Respect is a thing often overlooked but like we have discussed in the movie "The Immigrant" on this blog, there are several triggers or baits that lead the youths to entrapping enslavement. This is not to say that we can be perfect, but we should exercise caution in the things we say, do, and how we react to certain situations. Believe it or not spiritual bonds are real, just like in the fairy tales were good children are rewarded.
- 14 Times too Many
Molly had been to detox 14 times and was returning for a Guinness world record 15th. Oh boy, you can't fight a problem you don't understand. Molly's problem is not a will to overcome drugs, but rather a lack of understanding. She's not conscious of what's at stake. Her life, her family, her potentials, her future, her money, her income, her future kids, her health, her respect, her social standing, her love life, her relationships, her education, her freedom, and her appearance are all at stake, but she only sees her immediate gratification, her immediate joy for the moment. So lets open the eyes of young adults to see the possibilities in building potential so that they can make informed decisions, and not just decisions based on short thrills in show circles.
- Safe Neighborhood Indeed
Molly complains about her mother's door alarm and claims that their neighborhood is one of the safest neighborhoods in the world. In return, Deb looks at Molly with contempt, as if to say, 'safe indeed, look what became of you'. In reality, a safe neighborhood is not an array of fancy houses and paved streets, rather it is a community of mutual respect where everyone's right is respected and upheld. A community is safe if your kids can achieve their potentials within its vicinity without discrimination or fear. However, with our current system of entrapment and enslavement, a daughter can be turned into a pee catcher and given the nickname 'toilet' just two blocks from her parents home, and a son can be taught how to inject himself while watching porn for an extra high feeling in a public washroom. We disrespect ourselves, we think that bringing other people down gives us more room to grow and prosper, so that we can have it all. I use the term 'We' because I don't want to be judgmental. Everyone has a role to play. Everyone has something to contribute to the proper development of society. We can prosper through selfish means, but am not sure its as enjoyable as prospering together. For example if you think there isn't enough space at the top everyone, consider that we are all only on earth when we have an entire solar system, galaxy, and cosmos to investigate and nurture. The only catch is that we do it rightly by learning to treat ourselves well.
- First Look Inwards
Its pathetic in the closing scenes, watching Molly beg her mum for a substitute pee sample because she hasn't been honest with staying clean for the days leading to the detox injection. She has defaulted, which means she has cheated herself. It is commonplace for us to have a dependent attitude these days. A hope for something foreign to save us. There used to be a popular advertisement for a Milk brand while I was growing up. It had a tag line 'It's in you'. Most of us fail to look inwards. Molly is so dependent on a detox injection, a quick fix, and automatic solution to her addiction that she forgets to first develop a will or discipline for self care. She disappoints herself and ends up in the emergency room. Quick fixes have side effects that could even be fatal. First develop a will, then everything would follow.
I know its difficult because I have been down the road of overcoming addiction and I remember an affirmation I was thought by the head nurse at the institute which was 'I might have smoked yesterday, and I may smoke tomorrow, but not today. Today is a good day'. This affirmation resonates with the title of this movie. So get your 'four good days' because you have your whole life ahead of you.
Thank you for taking time out to read through this article and we hope it has been thought provoking and eye opening for you. You can find links to this movie 'here', and please leave your thoughts in the comment sections below. Cheers.
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